You know what’s exhausting? Living in dissatisfaction and pretending everything is fine. And yes, sometimes everything IS fine (don’t forget to write in that gratitude journal!) but deep down, you know there’s something missing. You feel like you’ve given up the freedom, vitality and fun of your youth. Getting older, responsibilities. It all feels a […]
How to stay devoted without losing your zest for life The Loyalty Trap You meet someone at a party. They’re married. As you shake hands, they glance at you, then look quickly away, avoiding eye contact like it’s an affair waiting to happen. Flirtation isn’t allowed, and even lingering too long in someone’s gaze […]
A lot of people believe that being in love means meeting every single need your partner has – emotional, sexual, intellectual, spiritual, social. All of it. You’re not just their person, you’re supposed to be their everything. This puts a lot of pressure on a relationship. Let’s be real, that puts a lot of pressure […]
Includes guidance for kids of different ages! Let’s be honest – this life takes work Let’s start with some real talk. Being poly isn’t the easy path, especially as a parent. (Though being monogamous actually sounds harder to me, because of all the suppression it would require… but I digress). Choosing this unconventional path requires […]
You’re not a bad partner for wanting more, you’re just growing. And you deserve to have honest, expansive conversations, even the uncomfortable ones. This guide walks you through how to start those conversations with care, clarity, and a high chance of success. And at the very end I’ll share 2 unexpected, research-based tips that make […]
You want closeness. You want to feel chosen. You want ease, affection, shared goals, a touch of magic, and some damn space to breathe. But if you’re like most people, you may be reacting in ways that sabotage the very things you say you want. Most people don’t realize they’re self-sabotaging until the damage has […]
A step-by-step guide to working through the yucky feels and building something sustainable For a long time, I thought I was one of those people who couldn’t do non-monogamy. I believed that my boyfriends should be laser focused on me, and if they cast an eye toward other women it was disrespectful. But then something […]