You love each other, but the spark has faded, and sex is more of a memory than a regular part of your connection. It may be the one thing you’re missing from a perfect union.
You genuinely care about each other and likely get along well day to day. You function as a team, maybe even as best friends or co-parents. But when it comes to sexual connection, things have cooled off. Maybe it used to be hot and heavy, or maybe it was never a major part of your dynamic. Either way, intimacy now feels awkward, infrequent, or like something you’ve quietly stopped expecting. You’re emotionally close, but physically distant.
Why You’re Still Together?
- You feel safe and supported in other areas
- Sex hasn’t felt urgent enough to address
- You’re used to the comfort and stability
- You like each other! There’s so much goodness in this relationship.
You have a solid foundation. There’s trust, mutual respect, and shared values. You enjoy your life together in many ways, and sex just hasn’t been a priority. You might tell yourself it’s normal for couples to lose passion over time. You may assume your partner isn’t interested, or you’ve stopped initiating because rejection or discomfort shut things down in the past. So you keep things warm and functional, but not fiery.
What You’re Struggling With
- You miss feeling desired or sexy
- You feel unsure how to talk about sex
- Affection feels absent or awkward
Deep down, you miss feeling desired. You wonder if you’re still sexually compatible, or if something’s wrong with you. You might feel guilty for wanting more, or resentful that your partner doesn’t seem to notice what’s missing. Conversations about sex feel vulnerable, and you may avoid them altogether. Physical affection might feel forced or absent, and the longer it goes unaddressed, the harder it is to bring up.
How Coaching Can Help
- Feel validated and unashamed, so you can comfortably talk about your sex lives
- Identify what’s blocking desire or closeness
- Rekindle intimacy in a way that fits you both
- Find creative solutions that you may not have thought of
Together, we can create a safe space to talk about sex without pressure or blame. Coaching helps you understand what’s really going on beneath the surface, including understanding that it’s natural for eros to fade with time but that doesn’t mean it has to be gone forever. You’ll learn how to rekindle physical intimacy, explore desires, and rebuild a connection that feels alive and playful again. Whether you want more frequency, more variety, or just more closeness, there’s a way forward that honors both of your needs.
You deserve a love that feels alive in every way. Let’s bring desire, touch, and intimacy back into your connection.
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