The Steady Ship Relationship

You’re Steady and Secure, but Could Use a Little Spark

You’ve built a stable, dependable foundation. Commitment feels easy and natural. You trust each other and know what to expect. But let’s be honest — could things feel a little more vibrant? Predictability is safe, but adventure fuels connection. Are you intentionally making space for surprise and play? Are you finding new ways to keep things hot? 

Why You’re Thriving

• You feel emotionally and physically secure in your bond. This is your person!
• You share common values and life rhythms. You’re on a smooth ride together, planning, doing and the future feel solid.
• There’s little drama, and trust is high. The relationship is harmonious and relaxed. Coming home feels like… home. 

What You Might Be Overlooking

• Falling into automatic routines without conscious connection can become a comfortable pattern but without growth things can get stale. Or you could be missing out on fulfilling your potential. 
• Losing a sense of excitement, flirtation, or spontaneity may be the cost of steady reliable partnership. Is there a way to balance both? To dare to dream and venture into new territory, knowing your partner will have your back and support you living your richest, fullest life (and vice versa)?
• Ask yourself, is there a chance you’re taking each other’s presence and loyalty for granted? You’re so sure, it’s so “in the bag” it’s not even expressed much? Could you be a better partner in this regard – showing your appreciation and support explicitly and really lifting your partner up?

What You Can Do for Your Relationship

• Schedule “date adventures” that break your usual patterns. Go on – try something new. Get a little uncomfortable (you can check in with each other beforehand and set expectations around support if that helps you feel more aligned and secure). Go skydiving, try a blindfolded dinner, get sensual couples massages, attend a tantra retreat together. 
• Share fantasies and surprises with each other. Yes, go there. What makes you blush and has been kept in your most private realm of desire? Share with each other in safety, and then… possibly… steps to turn those hot dreams into reality.

How Coaching Can Help

• Coaching can help you wade into those exciting new waters in a way that feels safe, supported and focused on your relationship’s closeness and growth.
• Good guidance from a loving and impartial coach helps you identify hidden needs and dreams that routine may have buried. Unload the burden of those uncomfortable secrets and desires, share your insecurities in a safe space and heal past them, with your partner’s support and an experienced guide.
• An outsider’s fresh perspective can help strengthen novelty and appreciation, two vital ingredients for lasting joy. Open your eyes to what’s really possible and go get it!