The Conscious Communicators Relationship

You are emotional intelligence powerhouses. You speak your truth, listen empathetically, and fight fair. Conflict doesn’t scare you, you handle it with maturity and grace. Amazing! But not every moment needs to be a deep process. How often are you laughing, playing, and being silly together? Connection also lives in lightness.

Why You’re Thriving:

• You know how to talk through tough things with honesty and compassion. Things are not left to fester.
• You handle disagreements respectfully and productively, like mature, fair and loving adults.
• Emotional safety is a priority and a strength. Your relational IQ is high – you don’t fight to win, but fight to resolve. You share a desire to deeply understand your relationship dynamics, personal traumas and have a growth orientation. You’re probably spiritually connected too.

What You Might Be Overlooking:

• Over-processing or turning every small issue into a deep dive can actually drain your resources and start to feel like work after a while, if not for both/all parties, at least one. 
• Constantly digging into yourselves, processing a point of friction, revisiting your trauma and identity around it… is the antithesis of lightness, spontaneity, and humor. Lighten up a little!  
• Treating the relationship more like a project than a playground or even just letting it be can get old. It’s deep but in the constant pursuit of depth and healing you maybe overlooking some other aspects of relationships, which are equally important.
• Constantly looking for problems can interrupt smooth sailing and stability. Balance may be needed.

What You Can Do for Your Relationship:

• Prioritize play, silliness, and shared fun just as much as serious conversations. Show all sides of yourselves.
• Designate “no processing” days where the goal is pure enjoyment. Make a point to talk about anything other than your relationship in detail. Seriously, there are so many interesting topics in this world… It’s like meatless Mondays for your relationship.
• Create shared rituals that invite laughter and creativity. For example, commit to showing each other one hilarious video every day. Keep a running list of funny quotes that you’ve said yourselves, or heard.

 How Coaching Can Help:

• Coaching can help you balance depth with lightness and joy. Give you guidance and ideas to get out of your intense growth and healing mindset and find intimacy through other forms of relating.
• It can also help you efficiently process and heal any repeat or underlying issues that may be causing the friction and the frequent processing talks. Fix things once and for all so you can spend less time discussing and more time being disgusting (in a humorous way. For example!)
• Help you see your blindspots. And your patterns. No need to be so serious…Strengthen your bond by making space for both breakthroughs and belly laughs.